How to Keep from Falling Apart This Fall

I remember the first time the holidays didn’t feel quite so merry.  It was the year after my uncle died when I was nine. Sure, I remember there being presents galore, great food, and a lot of smiles, but there was something missing.  Not just something, someone.  There wasn’t the happy-go-lucky guy that used to sneak my sister and I across the street to play on the playground.  There wasn’t my aunt or my cousin to laugh and play with. There wasn’t the vegetarian option that he always required.  In other words, there was a hole. Chances are you too have some mixed emotions around holidays like I did after my uncle died.

The Importance of a Quick, Imperfect Clean-Up

It was an afternoon break in an office full of people I still call “family.”  M&M’s, pretzels, and Cheez-It crackers were shared across the table as the topic of vacuuming came up.  Listening to my coworkers, I quickly learned how vastly different everyone’s vacuuming habits were. From one coworker that vacuumed every morning before work to another that vacuumed only when the company came to all those in between, my office was certainly divided on this issue.  Being on the only-vacuum-when-company-comes end of this subject, I was baffled to learn that some people vacuum daily. I could not imagine ever being disciplined enough to accomplish a cleaning goal that lofty.

The Great Outdoors: 4 Ways to Experience Life Beyond Your Cubicle

Cold is not my thing.  The fastest you’ll see me walk is through a parking lot in those brutal February months when the Oklahoma wind cuts right through you.  During the summer, I’m willing to loiter a little. The winter is a different story.  

Despite my disdain for cold weather, I know it’s good for me to be outside.  Research shows that getting outside helps us relax and increases our productivity.  So how do we do that when drinking hot cocoa by the fireplace feels a whole lot better?  (Or, for you warm-blooded folks, sitting in front of the AC with a cup of sweet tea sounds better). 

One Key to Renew Your Joy

When I was a senior in high school, there was one prayer God laid heavy on my heart.  Truthfully, part of it probably felt so heavy because I was scared, but I also believe it was genuinely the Lord preparing my heart to do something amazing.  The prayer God laid on my heart was this: Pray for good friends in college.

Oh man, did He answer those prayers?  The university I went to catered to a very different population than me.  It was essentially a performing arts school and I barely made the plays in grade school (I’m a millennial, which means everyone got a part in the play…that is how much of a performer I am not). 

2 Myths About Stress

You know the conversation.
“What’s new with you?”
“Oh I’ve just been busy.”
Busy. It’s a word used often that represents an epidemic of stress.

Chances are you or someone you love has this very week described feeling busy, overwhelmed, or stressed. It’s part of our everyday vocab. It’s also an expectation. If a person isn’t busy, there’s an element of judgment that inevitably comes his or her way.
From both personal and professional experiences, I’ve noticed two big myths about stress. The first is that stress is not a big deal. The second is that stress is unbeatable. I would encourage you to refuse those myths.

The Key to Stress Relief

My mom’s cousins know how to have a good time.  When I’m around this side of my family, I’m always reminded how I tend to take things too seriously. 
 
Tragedy: The Most Common Excuse for Seriousness
 
The excuse I often give for being too serious is that tragedy requires that kind of response.  The more I’ve sat with people in their deepest grief, the more I’ve realized that I don’t think that’s truly the case.  Let me use my mom’s cousins to explain why I think seriousness is overrated, especially in tragedy.